Trying to get it right

I really dislike using the full auto function on my camera and avoid using the flash if I can but somehow when taking pics of my gorgeous blond boys in low light they come out looking like little ginger ninjas. Don't get me wrong I loooove red heads but I am so proud of having my blond beauties as I think they are they only ones this fair in my immediate family - we are all brunettes .... DOH! ......I think I just let my secret out ........ my hair is natural I swear!!!!!!!!